“Thanks for helping me think through this”, “I feel so much better now that I have this plan”, “What a great suggestion. That makes so much sense”…people have been telling me things like this my whole life. However, it wasn’t until I got Bell’s Palsy in 2013 that I really began to think about what the hell my purpose was and whether I’m happy or just going thru the motions.
Waking with one side of your face paralyzed really does change things!
I decided to leave my comfortable job at PBS and try to turn the consulting I was doing on the side into a full-time effort. I always wanted to be an entrepreneur and now I had the motivation like never before. Everyone told me I was crazy to quit my job. But I did. So what happened next? I soared to success in a year? No. Not even close.
Shit hit the fan.
When I left my job, I had no back up plan, $10,000 in my bank account and didn’t really know how to run a business. I lost everything.
I ended up moving back in with my family, picked up smoking again, and worked hard to figure out my purpose. I was desperate. So, I began to read voraciously. Something I had always enjoyed doing. Reading has always been my first love, so in this time of desperation, I returned to it.
As a kid I would ask my mom to drop me off at the library and I would literally stay there from the time they opened until the time they closed. I even found my mother’s estranged father, whom she had been looking for since long before I was born, during one of my stints in the library. I went through countless public records and used the payphone to call the prospects I had narrowed down. One of them was him! They have a great relationship to this day and I’m so happy to have a grandfather.
As Dan Lok says, “motivation is great, but desperation is better”. It really makes you dig deep and push yourself to limits you never knew were possible, but reaching these limits is the only way to your success. For me it couldn’t be more true.
I got more narrow, focused on delivering exceptional quality, and developed a stellar customer experience. This time when I dived in, I knew how to navigate the waters! My marketing and business development company went from making $5,000 its first year to making over $18,000 in the first 6 months of it’s second year. While that may not be much to some, it was a huge victory and point of realization for me. I worked in this business for 6 years, and it was great. But, then it all changed.
I threw two shirts in a backpack, sold everything I owned and gave all the profits to charity, and flew to Bali. Just kidding. 😉
But that’s what this MAJOR change initially felt like!! I like to call it “a call from the universe to go deeper and level up”. I realized that what I loved most about what I was doing was the mindset transformations I was helping my clients develop their mindsets for success so that the actions they were taking would lead to a transformational manifestation.
There are so many things that hold us back from ultra success. 98% of them start in our minds. Negative views about money and rich people, depression, defeating self-talk, etc. The clients who had the greatest success stories were ALWAYS the ones who had re-programed their minds for success. Throw in the fact that most of my clients also happened to be women, and it hit me. This was my real calling. My true gift. Teaching business women how to transform their lives and businesses by developing a manifestation mindset.
So, with fear in my mind, joy in my heart, and eyes wide open I ran off the cliff into my destiny. I began focusing my time as an Executive Mindset Coach. I combined my skills in marketing and business development with my new core focus to bring transformational changes to women entrepreneurs everywhere and make the most impact in their businesses and personal lives.
By the way, I made a full recovery from my Bell’s Palsy, which took exactly 12 months – one of the most important years of my life.
So, I’m still reading, still learning, and still pushing myself to the limit. Growth never stops once you get to a different level, you just set new goals. There is always more to learn and always someone inspirational to learn from. That’s how I approach life and always will.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson
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